Marriage !

MARRIAGE - Before it was a big word to me and now it is an even bigger word for me. Infact I think anyone would agree with me that it is a life changing word. If you asked me what is the most difficult things in life, Marriage would definately be one of it.

Leaving behind my life as a Singleton which I enjoy tremendously and stepping into a role of being someone's wife is something I never consider before. I enjoy my freedom, I love my independence, I thrive at doing things at a moment of impulse, I want to see and explore the world. Most importantly, I don't want any baggage or anyone to tie me down. I consider myself a loyal friend, a good daughter(at least I think I am), a good aunt (to my triplets), a crazy and fun co-worker but a wife ???!! That role scares me and is one which I am uncertain if I can fit in. I always ask my married friends "How do you know if he is THE ONE ?" .

To me, there is a long list for THE ONE to fit in. THE ONE includes being a loyal friend, a faithful companion, a good listener, a provider, a supporter, a cheerleader, a shoulder to lean on, a pillar to support on, a potentially good father, a good son to his and my parent and most importantly a good husband.

I have stepped into this new role and a list which I am sure my husband look for in a wife as well. It's a challenge for me cause marriage life is something that I have never experience before. From living life just for myself to putting someone before me. From thinking of Me, Myself and I to focusing on We, Us and Together.

It is a life changing step for me but I am glad that along the ups and downs, I have my Husband along the ride with me and I am not alone. Most importantly, I have my friends to talk to, supporting and cheering for me. Married friends to share experience with. At the end of the day, I have a Husband who will hug me, make me laugh and let me know that my efforts are worthwhile.

Until I am 6 feet under, no one can really tell me if my hardwork really pay off. But right now, I have to continue to work and make the big mark which is still 5 more mths to go before our 1 yr anniversary. Each day, it is a challenge for me, a challenge filled with surprises, laughters, anger and perhaps a little frustration ! =)

But I am glad that I have friends and family whom I can share my experience with and whom I know will support me unconditionally and regardlessly.

P/S : For the married folks, enjoy each moment and yes, it takes effort and hardwork to make it work (You are not alone, I am part of the population as well) . For the singletons, enjoy your freedom. For the dating couples, think before you leap. It is not as easy as you think ! =)